Still looking for love online?

In today’s society we are governed by 3 things.  The laws of man, the laws of God and peer pressure.  The first two do not apply to the internet and online dating.  On line dating is not policed by anyone, which makes it easy for people to exaggerate the truth and flat out lie.  I can’t even count how many times people have told me of their frustrations with lies about age, weight, income and appearance while using online dating sites. Read more

My drug of choice…

I have known people who are addicted to chocolate.   I have know people who are addicted to exercise and working out.  So what is a matchmaker doing writing about strange addictions?  Well love and romance, in a sense, are addictions as well.  PEA (phenylethylamine) is the one common factor in chocolate, exercise and new love.  PEA is a stimulant that the body produces naturally.  It is responsible for the high that surges into our brain chemistry causing the feelings of euphoria, alertness and attraction.   Read more

Listen up guys…

Do you even know what your most attractive feature is?  Maybe you think it is your beautiful eyes because you catch us ladies looking into them often.  Or maybe it is the way you dress because you think us women appreciate a man with a sense of fashion.  Maybe you think it is those abs you work so hard for every day at the gym.  Possibly you believe it is that gorgeous smile you have with those perfect white teeth.  Well let me tell you something all of those things are great but they are not the number one reasons why us ladies are attracted you… Read more

Caregiver Syndrome

Some of the nicest people I have ever meet are caregivers.  You know the ones, always doing for others, typically putting their own needs aside.  When a caregiver chooses a career it tends to be one in something like social work, teaching, nursing etc.  They choose these career paths because it makes them feel good about themselves.  It gives them purpose.  When they fulfill that “need to be needed” in their career choice great things can be achieved.

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Fears

We all have them, not all of us are able to admit to them! Once we are able to identify our fears then we have to ask ourselves are we ready to conquer them?Until we make a concise decision to make a positive change in our life we are unable to move forward in a healthy direction.

Many people suffer greatly form the fear of REJECTION. This is very common in 90% of the single male population. With the fear of rejection comes shyness as well. Read more

Dinner and a Movie? NOT!!!

How many times have you heard of the “dinner and a movie date” for a first date?  TOO MANY!

Let’s start with dinner shall we…Dinner dates remind me of one thing, an inquisition!  You sit across the table from each other, already nervous, and then one of you starts with the questions…”so you are divorced, how long were you married, what happened, what do you do for work etc.!”  Let’s face it; it is like a round of ping pong with the questions Read more

Denial. It isn’t just a river in Egypt…

90 % of the single population have either been in or are presently in this emotional state – the emotional state of denial…

The most common way of falling into a state of denial is by being single for a long period of time.  A long period of time could be 6 months or 10 years, this varies by individual.  Some people need more affection and to these people, a long period of time could be 3 months.  Regardless of the length of time someone is single, Read more

Long Distance Relationships

A friend of mine recently become involved in a long distance relationship (LDR) and asked me for some advice on how to make it work.  I sort of giggled because the only LDR I have ever had failed horribly!  Then got to thinking, well how could it have worked?  What could I have, or he have done differently?

I believe you have to have something to look forward to!  When will you see each other again!  If possible, alternate trips so that neither Read more