Get Over Your Breakup In Just 21 Days

My friend Lisa Steadman authors The Breakup Chronicles and is also a relationship coach extraordinaire and best selling author, has a brand new book coming out today that will seriously rock your world if you’re going through a breakup or struggling to heal and move on from past heartbreak.  If you are working on being true to your authentic self I believe this could be a great tool and help you mend a broken heart! Read more

Complicated?

I was on my Facebook today and noticed under Relationship Status there was an option for “It’s Complicated.”  Which lead me to the thought of why not “I’m Complicated!” and while we are at it lets toss some more in the mix…I’m not perfect!

Wouldn’t it be nice if we all came with warning labels?  “High Maintenance, Fears Commitment, Co-Dependent, Momma’s Boy, Jealous Tendencies etc.” Imagine being on a first date and being able to see that person’s true authentic self.  No games, no hidden agendas’ just the real person.  We could decide right there if we were interested in a second date. Read more

eHarmony ~ A Social Experiment

As a matchmaker I am always curious as to what others in the industry are doing.  I have heard a lot about most of the popular dating sites out there and have always been intrigued as to why so many people have told me they have been rejected by eHarmony.  In efforts to understand this I spent about 30 minutes completing their profile questions about me personally to see how accurately their matching would work. Read more

Men and the Dreaded Pull Back Phase

Written by: Heidi Bilonick

How to tell if this is Normal or If He’s Just Not into You

You are trucking along fine. You’ve met a great guy. He’s calling all the time.
You go out and things are marvelous! You tell all your friends about the great new guy you’re dating. You even start to think of him as your boyfriend. Then all of the sudden, he stops calling. Or, he tells you to call him and he is suddenly busy. Read more

Rant from a 30 something…

What works for you in your 20′s could be your relationship demise in your 30′s…

Dating in your thirties, I feel is different then dating in your twenties, or your teens. Well of course you say, its uncharted territory, and ever changing with time. We are ever changing with time. We grow, we become more knowledgeable, sometimes more jaded.

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Finding Love and Romance

I have been getting a ton of inquiries in my email lately from people who read my blog and want to know more about how they can get involved in my dating service and what it is really all about. It certainly isn’t anything like any of the online dating sites out there. In fact, it is very different from online dating. Think of me as an old fashion matchmaker. It actually makes my skin crawl that people buy into the whole letting a computer decide who is right for you theory. We are real people, with real feelings and real emotions that need to be handled with real care and sometimes even a little touch love. Read more

The porch swing test…

As a matchmaker I am usually the one that friends, family, even strangers turn to when they need advice on their love life.   This means I hear ALL the stories, the good, the bad and the ugly! More often then not it typically boils down to one thing…is this the person right for me, how can I tell, how can I be sure?

Well the answer is you can’t be sure and only YOU can make that decision.   We don’t come with warning labels, expiration dates or guarantees!  Read more

Leap of faith…

Saturday night I jumped.  I did it!  It was amazing, exhilarating and scary all at the same time.  I was standing there looking down with my heart racing and all I kept thinking was “this is crazy, I can’t do it!”  But I did!  I haven’t felt knots in my belly like that in such a long time and it was worth it! It made me feel alive.

Funny though, I got to thinking…why was it so hard to step off that 75 foot cliff?  I had my safety harness, something to hold on to and a big bouncy pillow to catch my fall.  I realized it was my aged wisdom that wanted to hold me back. Read more

Translating online dating profiles…

Online dating can be difficult, just as difficult as actually dating!  The biggest complaints I hear are typically about the lies and exaggerations.  So I always try to find a bit of humor in it when I can…

I found this one on youtube and just had to share…

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Rant from a single girl…

My friend Nicole posted this her facebook and I asked her if I could re-post it here because it is just too perfect…

Ten Reasons Why “The Bachelor” Does not Remotely Resemble Real Life:

I hate “The Bachelor” and think it is the stupidest show in the world. The worst thing about it though is that I watch the garbage. Anyone can fall in love in this Read more

Letters to Cupid

In the spirit of love, romance and Valentines Day I had mentioned I would share some of my creative writings.  The following is Part I of II which is actually titled Letters to Eros.  Eros and Psyche have the most amazing love story.  If you are not familiar with Cupid’s tale, you can Wikipedea it here for the short version.  Being a hopeless romantic myself, one who loves with all of her heart and soul, I had written this back in August of 2007 while under the spell of a perfect muse.  Part II shall be posted sometime before Valentines Day.  Enjoy…

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Social Network Love

In comments the other day Bobby, from Relationship Digest, made a good point about how we are not just limited to the online dating services when it comes to meeting new people.  We also have things like twitter, youtube, facebook, myspace and several other social networking sites now where we have the opportunity to put ourselves out there whether it be for fun or in efforts of finding love.

I can say from personal experience that these avenues seem to be a better choice only because they give you a chance to get to know Read more

16 Days and counting…

As you may have guessed, this is always the busiest time of year for a matchmaker.  Everyone wants a date for Valentines Day!  Well almost everyone…So far this week I have talked to two of my friends that are in relationships and they are actually dreading Valentines Day!  What?  Are you crazy?  They both have boyfriends and they are dreading Valentines Day!  What about those of us that don’t have someone special to share this most romantic day of all days with!  How dare you complain about Valentines Day, you have a boyfriend! LOL Read more

Drive through dating…

So you put up a picture of yourself, write a few paragraphs full of clichés like “I’m easy going, honest, loyal and hard working etc.”  You spend hours online sorting through profiles full of the same clichés you just wrote about yourself and hope to find someone who has things in common with you.  Just because you both like bowling doesn’t mean you are going to live happily ever after!

What we all want is to find that person who fulfills what needs we are missing.   We want the other half who completes us.  Read more

Active within 24 hours!

I can’t tell you how many times I have heard of that one phrase destroying a potentially good relationship.  Most recently I was talking a good friend in DC down from what could have been a very self destructive plan.  She had been dating this guy for about 2 months and decided it was time to take down her online dating profile.  When she signed on (after not signing on in two months) she chuckled because the site had generated a new match for her and it was her new boyfriend.  She went to his profile out of curiosity and discovered that he was “Active within 24 hours!” Read more

Making love happen…

I have had several people ask me lately about my “online service” and I wanted to take the time to explain that I do not have an online service.  I am an old fashion matchmaker.  I have successfully combined the values of a matchmaker into the dating service business model.  If you haven’t already go check out my other website MatchMaker International for more details.  What I do is work with people individually to help find someone that they would be truly compatible with.  It sounds pretty simple but it’s really not. Read more

Men have their periods too…

Call it what you want but we all know it is true…they really do! I was talking with two of my friends today that having recently entered into new relationships and they both had the same critical concerns. “Everything has been going so great but now, I feel like he is pulling back…” Well of course he is! He has just realized that it is more than just “dating” and it scares the %^#@ out of him. Let him be. Do not chase. The more you pursue, the more he will retreat. Give him some space, stop over analyzing and let it take its own natural course.
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Out of the mouths of babes…

I was entertained last night cruising the web when I can across this article in the New York Post.  With all the experts in my field, I never would have thought we would be taking advice from a 9 year old.  Alec Greven is a fourth grader who apparently has done some research on the playground.  His new book How to Talk to Girls is now available nationwide.

Alec gives us advise on dating that tends to follow my own train of thought,  KIS…keep it simple. Read more

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