An Easy Way to Find New Love

Written by:  William Martin

Have you ever noticed that it is easier to attract a potential partner if you already have one? Have you noticed that if you are not really looking for a relationship a lot more people show an interest, but if you get desperate they run a mile!

At least that has happened to me sometimes and from asking around it seems to be quite common. Rather than just putting this down to some bizarre quirk of human nature lets look at the cause of this behavior and see if we can make it work for us.

One of the keys to finding a mate is to not particularly need one, or at least not need one ‘too much’. I find that if I need a partner too much that can drive them away. However, what do I do if I really feel desperate?

Another quirk of human nature is that our nervous system has a hard time telling the difference between an imagined experience and a real one. You only have to watch an exciting or scary movie to see how easily we can fool ourselves. This is the key to never being desperate about finding a partner. If we want to find a partner, then the best thing to do is imagine we have one already!

If we imagine we have the perfect partner and get into feeling how it would be to have that right now, this calms down our whole nervous system. It gives us a feeling of being fulfilled and takes away feelings of desperation. Especially if we really get into details; what you will do together, where you will go, what will you say, what will they say, and so on.

Please bear in mind that I am not talking about ‘yearning’ for someone. Sitting around yearning for someone is very different from imagining you already have them. Yearning is a feeling of ‘not having’, which primes us to feel desperate. We need to discourage ourselves from cultivating feelings of ‘not having’ and encourage ourselves to cultivate feelings of ‘having’. You can easily tell the difference as the feeling of ‘having’ is a much better feeling!

You may say that this is just a trick of the mind. Well, the feelings that come as part of the package of ‘lonely yearning’ are tricks of the mind too. Feelings of failure, or feeling that we will never find anyone, are all part of the imagination – they are negative imaginings. That is using our mind and our imagination against ourselves and training ourselves to fail.

If this all sounds strange to you, remember what top athletes do if they want to improve their abilities. They imagine themselves achieving a better time in the race, lifting heavier weights, having more stamina, and the like. They imagine how they will feel to achieve their goals. Athletes don’t mess around with techniques that don’t work, especially when a few hundredths of a second difference means winning or losing. Successful business people do this sort of thing too. They imagine success and then move ahead from there.

By imagining we already have the perfect partner, and how it will feel, we train our subconscious mind to start making that happen. And, because we are more likely to be mellow about it, we are much more likely to make the most of it when the next opportunity comes along. If you are going to try this, and you are willing to spend a few minutes on it every day, get yourself a nice big stick ready… you might need it to keep all the interest potential partners at bay…

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William Martin offers a new slant on dating and relationships. He offers unique and wholistic tips and advice to finding – and keeping – the man or woman of your dreams. Check out http://www.meetyourgreens.com his free dating site, or this ebooks site http://www.fingerclickingood.com/ebooks/love_romance_culture_ebooks.html for ebooks on matchmaking, love and romance.

8 Easy Ways To Find and Attract Your Soulmate!

Written by:  Cucan Pemo

Is there any such thing as a soul mate? Yes, there are soul mates for everyone in the world. You will find that you may find your soul mate in the least likely place or in the least likely person, but you will find someone who can love you and care for you when you need them. A soul mate is a person who you love and loves you back for no reason at all. A soul mate is deeper than lust.

You don’t lust for the person, though you may every now and then, but you are just as happy sitting with them watching TV as you are in the bedroom. You will find that your soul mate is like no other boyfriend. When you find a soul mate, you will feel something that you have never felt before.

Is there more than one soul mate out there? When it comes to answering your feelings, you will find that most people are 50/50 on this one. You may find that you love more than one man deeply in your life. There are more than a billion people in the world and your chances of having more than one soul mate is possible, however, most people believe in the one and only.

The one and only soul mate that you will ever have, but you will find that there are going to be many men in your life that make you feel so much. A soul mate is deeper than lust; it’s deeper than love. When you find a soul mate, you just know that they are going to be different.

1) To find your soul mate you have to be open to the world. There are messages and signs all around us; you just have to know how to read them. There are signs all around you that will lead you to your soul mate. When you begin to find the signs, you will find your soul mate. The universe is constantly moving you towards your own utopia. It is trying to move you towards your soul mate, your destiny, and your happiness.

2) You will know when you meet your soul mate; you will feel something that you have never felt. It’s like having love at first sight, but it feels deeper. You feel so much, in your heart, for a person before you even get to know a person. You will just know when you have met your soul mate.

Everything that you need to know lies in their eyes. If you can look into their eyes and see yourself, you have just met the man that will forever affect your life.

A soul mate may not last forever, however, it will last long enough for you to get what you need out of them. They may be there to comfort you and to care for you when others desert you. They may be there to encourage you to reach for your dreams. They promise to give you the world and then the follow through with their words. They are they for you when you truly need them.

A soul mate simply means that you never have to say I love you, because they, as well as you, already know. It’s never having to say you’re sorry, because you know they are. It is knowing what they feel without having to say a word.

1) To attract your soul mate you have to open your heart to the world. You have to take the time to sit in a park and watch the world pass you by. When you do this, you are able to feel all that the world feels.

2) Notice the signs. When you walk to work, look up to the buildings, look at everything around you. Don’t walk with your head looking straight ahead, you are blocking out the universe. Take in the world by acknowledging the world.

3) Be open to everything, you may meet your soul mate online or on a subway or on a blind date. You never know where you may meet them, so be open to every experience.

Be kind to others. Today, it is sometimes not safe to extend and open hand to others, but you can smile to everyone who passes you by on the street. You may want to pull out a dollar for the local charity or homeless person that you meet. You can be kind to the universe, by being kind to those who pass you by.

4) Do something for someone who you don’t even know. This will not only make you feel good, but it will also make someone else become open to the world. Open the phone book and pick a random name. Send them a dollar in the mail. It will make you and the other person happy and appreciative to the world.

5) Be patient. You don’t want to rush fate, or you’ll get cheated. You don’t want to rush into a relationship to be in a relationship, you need to wait and find someone who is your soul mate. It may happen at 15, 25, or maybe even 45. No one knows when you’ll meet your one, however, if you open yourself up to the world, then you will be able to find the love of your life much quicker.

6) Listen to your heart. You may find yourself in a relationship, but you aren’t truly feeling them. You will want to follow your heart. Your heart is an internal guide that will allow you to find the path to your soul mate.

7) Give everyone a chance. You may know someone and not even realize that they are your soul mate. The most unusual places; the ones that you would never think about will actually be your soul mate. Go against your normal status of acceptable dates and take a chance. It may turn into something much more than just conversation; they may be your soul mate.

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