Keeping the newness…

Who doesn’t enjoy the first few weeks of dating someone new?  The pursuit in going strong!  The attraction is at it’s highest point!  And he is pulling out his best A-game…the sweet and sometimes racy text messages 4 or 5 times a day, the romantic evenings when he actually listens to what you have to say, the way he mentally undresses you in public, the spark that runs up your spine every time his hands hold yours, the fact that he makes the time in his schedule to meet you in the Target parking lot for 5 minutes just to steal a kiss in the middle of the day!

And then…it stops!  He knows he has you and the efforts dwindle!  NO IT’S NOT THAT “HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU” it’s that he feels comfortable he has won your heart!  As women we tend to over analyze this part of the relationship and if we read too much into it sometimes it actually puts an end to the relationship!

So what do we do?

If you want someone to have a specific behavior, attribute to them those specific characteristics.

People feel compelled to act in a way that is consistent with way they see themselves and how others perceive them.  A person’s identity is their reality, so when you appeal to their identity, rather than focusing on negative actions, you get better results.

“I really have enjoyed the past few weeks with you and all of the little things you do to make me feel special I am so glad we are not that couple that just falls into a comfort zone and all the romantic gestures come to a screeching halt.  This is one of the things I like best about you and our relationship.”

Now got try it…it works!

Have you ever experienced the end of pursuit?  How did you handle it?


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6 Responses to “Keeping the newness…”

  1. Tina

    I can see how this would work in many situations! :)

  2. Miss MatchMaker

    Let me know how you do with it Tina ;)


  3. Christy

    OMG! This is happening to me right now….and I do say….”you used to…..” maybe I should try it your way!

    I will let you know how it works!


  4. Miss MatchMaker

    Give it a try Christy. You will be amazed with the results!


  5. Tiffany

    Wow, I do that. How do I deal with it? I had no idea how. This is really important in personal relationships. I take this blog to heart.

  6. Carla


    You seriously think this will work??

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