Learning to just say “Thank You.”

Written by:  Michelle Colon-Johnson

Learning to just say “Thank You”

A few days ago I signed up for  on line webinar for a life coaching class. One of the things they talked about is that a lot of us do not know how to say Thank you. We often feel guilty when someone gives us a compliment. Now we don’t think on the surface we feel guilty; it is mostly subconsciously. For example when someone says,” Hey you look great in that dress.” Most of us instead of saying thank you we will say something like,” OH I got it on sale or you would look better in it than me”. This is a pattern I think I have had all of my life. It stemmed from childhood poverty then adult insecurities left over from broken relationships. Somewhere along the line I never learned to just say Thank You! After that hour webinar I was so excited and told myself I would practice saying Thank you…

After all, if I did not think I deserved to look nice or have the things I was complimented on then what would make someone else believe I deserved these things? I got up the next morning and walked through my day saying nice things to others and accepting compliments. I am doing good right? Well last night I see a friend in the grocery store. I never get to see Patti much anymore except on Face Book so when I saw her my face lit up and we hugged. We exchanged what had been going on in each others lives and then Patti does the THING.. Yep she said,” Michelle you look great! You look like a teenager”! What do I do? I immediately fall back into my old way of thinking and say, ” Why don’t I feel younger? I am sooo tired and she looked at me and said,” Even if you FEEL tired you still look GREAT so when someone tells you how great you look say Thank You! They will never know how you feel. This is when I realized The Law of attraction had kicked in! Patti was there to reinforce the promise I made to myself to love myself! I said you know what.. YOU ARE RIGHT! Thank you for reminding me of this!

I got home after the grocery store and all night I thought to myself what made me retreat back into THAT girl? Then it hit me.. I had seen my ex fiancé that use to constantly Knock me down and diminish my self worth.. I saw him early in the day as I was meeting a friend for lunch. Why did I let him have the power to do that to me? Well they teach you in order to clean the clutter out of your mind and environment you have to BELIEVE TO RECEIVE. Believe you deserve to be treated better. I woke up this morning feeling a lot better. I KNEW I had people in my life encouraging me along on my journey and supporting me. People who loved me and people who BELIEVED IN ME! After running several errands today I saw the Flower shop and I realized it was a sign to give back. I turned my car around and went inside and looked for the perfect gift to give my friend. I found some yellow roses. I then went to the school where my dear friend Patti works and gave her the flowers! Her face was one of confusion.. she looked at me and her eyes teared up she said,” Michelle why are you giving me flowers”? I said because I just listened to a class the other day on learning how to accept a compliment and I failed miserably when you complimented me. You for some reason KNEW what lesson I needed to learn and taught it lovingly and without judgment. Thank You for being MY friend and I hope these flowers make your day as special as you made mine. She hugged me and she said,” I am proud of all the changes you have made in your life and all the ones you are making now”. I looked at her and said “THANK YOU! You will never know how much your friendship has meant to me. We said our good byes and I walked to my car and all the way I felt this weight being lifted from my heart. Thank you Patti! Sending you my love…

For those of you out there struggling to make better choices in your life or just wanting some hope my advice is to start with what is in side you. Believe in YOURSELF and then you will attract all the things you want in your life. From every failure a success is created! Smooches to all…

About Michelle:

Michelle Colon-Johnson is a model and small business owner in the Panhandle of Florida. Michelle believes in Living The Law Of Attraction and loves sharing her journey with others who are looking to make their dreams come true. Michelle is a Mother to an Autistic teenage daughter, a stage four cancer survivor and like many of us has been through relationships that leave us emotionally bankrupt. What do you do when you file bankruptcy? You start all over again with more knowledge and a thirst for a better life. Where do you start? Michelle says we all start with ourselves. With every failure a success is created. You can have the life you want by LIVING The Law Of Attraction. Attracting the life you dream about.

Thanks for the article Michelle! Good things are soon to come!!






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7 Responses to “Learning to just say “Thank You.””

  1. Shilo

    Wow, this is such an amazing article. I have a hard time accepting thanks for compliments, for pretty much the same reasons as the author. I have to say I will always think of this article when someone compliments me and have a hard time saying anything OTHER than thank you!!!!

  2. Nancy Gargano

    Great great article, keep ‘em coming! Gratitude is really the first acknowledgement for the blessings in our lives. Thank you opens doors in our hearts.

  3. Tana

    Michelle – thanks for sharing this story! I too have trouble accepting compliments – and the part of your story that really spoke to me was the part about believing in myself! Powerful advice in here lady!

  4. connie cote

    very good article! makes me stop and think about all those times i downplayed compliments and turned them into a negative. i will try to accept each and every compliment with grace and also in turn give more compliments. the world is truely what we make it! thank you so much for sharing….

  5. Tracey

    What an amazing inspiration!!!

  6. Kendra

    Oh…wow!! Truer words were never written/spoken. You are amazing and we all coul stand to remember to say “Thank you!!” So, thank you!

  7. Lucia Lehrer

    I’m so happy to find people out there that still have old fashion values and understand that saying “Thank you’ is part of being positive. It’s affirmation that we depreciate something that someone took the time to offer us.

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