The porch swing test…

porchswingAs a matchmaker I am usually the one that friends, family, even strangers turn to when they need advice on their love life.   This means I hear ALL the stories, the good, the bad and the ugly! More often then not it typically boils down to one thing…is this the person right for me, how can I tell, how can I be sure?

Well the answer is you can’t be sure and only YOU can make that decision.   We don’t come with warning labels, expiration dates or guarantees!  We are people and with that comes emotion and risk.  I know that is not what you want to hear but it is the truth.  However, there is a way to gauge whether you will be happy with that person.  I refer to it as the porch swing test.

My best friend is and has been in a relationship for almost a year now.  Her lease is about to expire and she is considering moving in with her boyfriend.  So over lunch the other day, up comes the porch swing test… “30 years from now, when all is said and done and you have lived a full life and you are sitting back on the porch swing can you see yourself sitting there next to him with a smile on your face?”  Here lies the answer to your future…the porch swing test!

An “old friend” emailed me last week asking me to lend an ear because he still hasn’t figured out that one portion of his life that I am the expert in.  I never did respond to his email (insert theatricals here lol) but I will give my opinion here…and I sincerely mean this from the bottom of my heart (insert forbidden name here)!!!  Just find a girl that you can picture your self growing old with and do whatever it takes to get her and keep her!  “30 years from now, when all is said and done and you have lived a full life and you are sitting back on the porch swing can you see yourself sitting there next to her with a smile on your face?”

Unfortunately relationships and dating are not that easy to figure out at times but sometimes things can be broken down into the smallest components and sometimes, just sometimes it makes it easier to come to better decisions this way.  Enjoy the porch swing test…I do apologize for not answering your email directly (insert forbidden name here) but I’ve been busy pouring out sour milk…


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7 Responses to “The porch swing test…”

  1. Destin Girl

    I think think is the absolute perfect way to look at it! When all is said and done will you still be smiling and happy in the end, how perfect. I can’t wait to find him!

  2. DW

    As usual MM this makes perfect sense. How did you get to be so smart and pretty?

  3. Trish

    I really think, if the two people are enjoying the porch swing together now, holding hands, & looking in each others eyes as the sun sets, there is hope!
    If your man is talkin’ football, has a beer in hand, and is swinging the porch back and forth roughly…. run!
    The red flags of today are the break-ups of the future.
    What is annoying now, will be 30 times more annoying 30 years from now,
    and I know I won’t want that at … 57 years old!
    Did I do my math right? ~ Yeah ~ :)

  4. Shannon

    I love the porch swing test!

  5. Miss MatchMaker

    Yeah if you have a porch ;)


  6. Stacey

    I love the porch swing test! Now I just have to get my hands on a swing!

    Stacey’s last blog post..I Am Alive!

  7. dr sherman

    I have a similar test…the ‘wake up in the morning’ test. Do you look at your partner in the morning and think “I could wake up next to them for the rest of my life”? Same idea, different setting!

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