The Za Za Zoo

Learning the differences between our wants list and our needs list can be difficult sometimes.  I do believe the Rolling Stones said it best but today, I am going to focus on some of my favorite quotes from Carrie Bradshaw and friends because we can all relate to a little pop culture, at least us girls lol.  “Welcome to the age of un-innocence.  No one has breakfast at Tiffany’s and no one has affairs to remember.”

We are ALL looking for that special passion.  Urban dictionary explains that “za za zoo is a phrase to describe that undeniably charismatically sexy something in someone.”   So the puzzle is learning the difference between the Za Za Zoo and real love.  Should the Za Za Zoo be on the wants list or the needs list?   When the Za Za Zoo wears off are we left with something, anything we can really hold on to?

True love, real love is simple…“I’m looking for love.  Real love.  Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.”  Isn’t that what really matters anyway?  The kind of love I am talking about should be on the needs list and take the place of the Za Za Zoo, no?

We can try to define what we want and in the end we learn, “Normal is the halfway point between what you want and what you can get.”  Is that normal, reality, maybe just life…or maybe it is proportionate to what we have to offer.

“When it comes to relationships, maybe we’re all in glass houses, and shouldn’t throw stones.  Because you can never really know.  Some people are settling down, some are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less.  Than butterflies…”   Have we all become Za Za Zoo junkies and forgotten what really matters?

If we put Za Za Zoo on our needs list long enough, we grow to realize that maybe it should be moved over to the wants list because some needs just change or maybe we just grow up.  “That’s the thing about needs. Sometimes when you get them met, you don’t need them anymore.”

Maybe it’s all just too complicated.  Maybe we like it that way.   Maybe it was Hubble….and maybe, just “maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed.  Maybe they’re supposed to run wild until they find someone — just as wild — to run with.”

If you are a guy reading this I know at this point you must be totally confused.   But I know all my girls out there know exactly what I am talking about…“I revealed too much too soon.  I was emotionally slutty.”

Seriously, at what point do we stop analyzing the lists and just enjoy the process?



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17 Responses to “The Za Za Zoo”

  1. Destin Girl

    and this is precisely why I am single ;)

  2. Miss MatchMaker

    ;) ~xoxo

  3. Miss Murphy

    This is much like what came first, the chicken or the egg? You can go round and round about either side. I am dying to hear what your other readers think.

    I think Carrie might have had it right of there has to be some type of Zazazoo in the beginning at least, ya know to keep you going when it slows down. Then later on you get it in little pieces here or there as you settle in.

    But then again if you put so much weight into looking for the the ZZZ. Something great could be passing you by!

    No one is perfect, and no one person will ever meet all of our needs. (Hence why we have our girls for shoe shopping, gossip, being fabulous, etc…) I think you have to weigh what is really important to you and make that the needs list. Values and morals are needs, what type of furniture should already be in his house or the car he drives, is a want.

  4. Miss MatchMaker

    The logical side of LMBA! This is why I love you!


  5. Miss Murphy

    I have my moments..;)

  6. Trish

    Oh! So it’s called the “za-za-zoo”! I Love it! I always referred to it as “being in Lust”. I love it either way, well, friend, what advise would you give a “za-za-zoo” Junkie? I am addicted to the za za zoo, love the feeling of butterflies, of waiting with anticipation for that first long awaited kiss!
    Love it! And it’s great to feel this way on My Birthday!!
    37 baby, and never felt better :)

  7. Miss MatchMaker

    I so wish I was there to celebrate with you!!! Happy Birthday!!!


  8. Doc

    Single is where it’s at. lol

  9. Miss MatchMaker

    Oh, seriously, for what 15 minutes? lmao


  10. DW

    I am definitely addicted to the za za zoo!

  11. Miss MatchMaker

    See this is my point!!! So what happens when it wears off?


  12. Jen

    so true!!!!

  13. Miss MatchMaker


  14. Bunglon Blog Indonesia

    this is my first visit here..
    nice blog my friend
    happy blogging

  15. Justin Dupre

    This is my favorite one “That’s the thing about needs. Sometimes when you get them met, you don’t need them anymore.” It’s true that that once you have it you just no longer want it anymore. You got a sweet blog!

  16. Retha Hadad

    It’s significantly more handy as compared with anything else I’ve seen.

  17. Addicted to the Za Za Zoo

    I have to admit, I am addicted to the Za Za Zoo. . . One of the questions I see you ask here that no one seems to answer is, what do you do when you lose the famous Za Za Zoo? There are several options on this one, you can settle in with the fact that it’s gone and keep working on the other things that “matter” in a relationship. You can find other ways to bring back the ZZZ. Or, this one is my favorite, you can move on to a new person with that ZZZ.

    Happy Blogging! :)

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