Comments on: Active within 24 hours!

By: David

David — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 03:19:38 +0000

Did your friend talk to the guy or just drop him? Currently, I am dating a lady I met on match in August and we decided to end our subscriptions which ended in the beginning of October. We both have not taken down our profiles because we haven’t been on it in months and should. We joke on how we still get messages from matches.

A few days ago she helped her friend out with her match profile and saw my profile had been active within 5 days. I do not have a subscription to match anymore and cannot access anything. I received an email in my yahoo account from match a few days ago saying I had a match and I opened it and deleted it. She now is upset with me and wont talk to me because she thinks I am looking for dates. I have researched this online and have read complaints on similar situations and there is a dating website that talks on how the status option is buggy and creates problems for people in relationships.

I have given her my account username and password, said lets call match, asked her to check out the website geeksdreamgirl.com to show her how checking your personal email can update your status.

I hope she believes me and we can work through this but if the situation happens to anyone, please investigate before jumping to conclusions.

I hate match right now!

By: Sarahlou

Sarahlou — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 21:40:26 +0000

This is such a mine field….met a nice guy online, met up a few days ago, kissed, supposed to meet him tomorrow evening for dinner but am very disappointed, in myself and more so him.
My friend is on the same site so I got her to message him to see what happened, he used a lot of the same lines on her as me, made me cringe. So now what do I do, meet him, tell him what I did? Walk away? There’s no commitment so don’t really know why I entrapped him like that but I’ve done it now.

By: Laura

Laura — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 14:18:43 +0000

I so wish I’d seen this 6 weeks ago. Just got kicked to the curb by one that hadn’t taken down or even made inactive his OKC profile. And yes, he dropped the “L” bomb, we were exclusive, the whole 9. I just figured he’d forgotten to change it. Yeah, no. He abruptly ended it out of nowhere. Claimed he wasn’t *really* in love with me, just the idea of love, etc, etc. Also said he could never learn to trust that I am who I present myself as. Yeah that’s a red flag to me. Well come to find out he had already made a date for the next day! The same guy that had a ring already picked out and on hold? What-ever.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 23:29:47 +0000

Things have been going great since our first date. No problems we click we like to do everything. I just don’t understand the match.com not being cancelled and if he has been on there.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 23:21:28 +0000

Been seeing a guy for about one month and a half met on match.com. I cancelled my membership, he said he was going to also, but we both noticed we still recieve profiles . But my point is I got on line to check on this to see why this was happening and I noticed under his screen name it said active within 2 weeks what does that mean?

By: SH

SH — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 11:19:15 +0000

She was just afraid of the competition. When in such a short relationship with no previous agreement to not date others, there’s not reason he shouldn’t be looking. Life is more complicated than what she saw on a website. And besides, she doesn’t know why his profile was active. He could’ve been canceling his profile when it ended.

I knew someone this happened to. Instead of telling her to overreact and end it, I recommended she talk to the guy. She did. They talked about his concerns and hers. It worked out fine. It did eventually end and they stayed friends. But it had nothing to do with match.com.

By: Angella Ellisha

Angella Ellisha — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 03:32:14 +0000

Hi Miss Matchmaker, I have had SUCH a similar experience as this one; it made my skin crawl! Except the only difference is that I was seeing the guy for a year and a half (I've blogged about it already "San Francisco and Commitment Are Like Oil and Water.") I have no idea what the "rules" are on taking your profile down, but honestly, I don't know if there are rules around it. I think that if you've had special times with a girl and want to continue seeing her, you should DEFINITELY inactivate your profile! Angella Ellisha’s last blog post..When it's time to go home, you got to get the F** out!

By: Micah

Micah — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 18:18:13 +0000

Great blog and very interesting comments! I just don’t get it when certain guys keep asking themselves why they can’t have a successful relationship. Maybe it’s because when they have a good thing right in front of them they don’t give the women the time and effort it takes to see if it will work. I’m talking about giving their undivided attention. That means stop looking! If it’s not what you want, then now you know. At least you tried. After all, what do they have to loose? Another 40 years without love. That’s sad

By: DC

DC — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 06:03:11 +0000

I just wanted to say thank you for your post and all the insightful comments! It is comforting to hear different opinions. Shannon you are right I am glad I didn’t invest any more time into that relationship! The whole thing took me by surprise, things were going so good up until that point. I do believe I made the right decision and I am glad Denise helped me through it. I hope that maybe others can learn from my experience as I learned from hers. Trish I know what it is like to pick myself up and brush myself off but I think some alone time is what I need for now.

As for online dating, I don’t think I will ever try that route again. Denise was kind enough to get me set up with a service similar to hers up here in DC I may try that in the future. At least that way I know the people I would be will be meeting will be more sincere people and I think it will be a little easier knowing that those people have made a commitment to find someone to really share their life with vs the online men that are just playing a numbers game! Thanks again to everyone!

And one more thing, to all you guys out there that are still online dating, when you do start dating someone, it might be wise to go inactive (not necessarily delete) in the very early stages of dating! Enjoy the process of getting to know that special lady and give it a chance to develop. If it appears that she can’t keep your interest, break it off with her and move on, don’t lead her on…don’t keep looking during the get to know you process because us women need to feel like we are the only one and if we are not enough, break it off before you start looking again, this would be called respect!

Regards,
DC

By: Miss MatchMaker

Miss MatchMaker — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 00:15:47 +0000

That is exactly what I told her!

xoxo~

By: Shannon

Shannon — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 23:56:45 +0000

Your friend should really tell the guy thank you. As in Thank you for letting me know now not to invest any further into this relationship!

By: Miss MatchMaker

Miss MatchMaker — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 23:49:37 +0000

The BBD just boils down to a fear of commitment. They think “well if I got this one I can get better!” I’m sorry but maybe that’s the reason this guy ended up 40 and NBM (no offense Steven you know I love you) Better she find out now then 6 months down the road!

xoxo~

By: Shannon

Shannon — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 23:46:21 +0000

Miss MatchMaker — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 18:53:23 +0000

I think most women feel this way…

By: Destin Girl

Destin Girl — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 18:51:02 +0000

If I can’t be the only women in a mans life I refuse to even consider staying with him! If two people are dating and one still has a profile up on any dating site something is wrong! Move on is my advice….