Another holiday spent solo…
November 24, 2008 by Miss MatchMaker
Filed under Blog
…while everyone else seems to have a significant other? Even though you may not have trouble finding a date, has finding a date that turns into a lasting relationship always eluded you? If so, you are in the same boat as many singles today. The real question is-How do you turn things around and build a successful relationship?
If you are among the singles out there that keep ending up with the wrong one, Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together Dating, one of the world’s largest brick-and-mortar dating service with more than 60 offices nationwide, has a few tips to help you out of your dating rut and create a fresh approach to dating in the new year. (original article posted here)
‘Dating is a lot like when you learned to ride a bike when you were a kid. Sure, you fell off the bike a time or two, but you kept getting back on, never forgetting what made you fall off. Fortunately with dating, you have the benefit of learning from others how not to fall the next time,’ said Falzone.
So, how do you begin the new year with a fresh outlook on dating? Here are some tips for finding the right one in the new year:
Take a look at your past relationships. Although you may not have a ‘type’, did each relationship have something in common? Do you choose partners based on how they make you feel (important in front of your friends, needed, over-protected, etc.)?
Leave enough time between the end of one relationship and the beginning of the next. When a relationship ends on a bad note, it is normal to seek the attention of another, but be sure your wounds are healed first.
Consider a dating hiatus. What you really might need is ‘you’ time. Focus on yourself for three to six months before getting back to dating. Try boosting your self-esteem without a partner. Find new people to spend time with or new hobbies to enjoy. This may help you adopt a fresh attitude towards relationships.
Give new relationships proper time to develop. Enjoy each phase as it comes and do not rush it. Approach each date as a chance to have fun and evaluate the true person.
You can read the rest of this article here. Paul Falzone is a dear friend of mine who operates both The Right One and Together Dating. Many thanks to Paul for granting me permission to re post this article. If you are single and would like more information on The Right One and Together Dating click on the logos below and follow the link.
If you live locally on the Gulf Coast, don’t forget to submit your profile now because the holiday season is my busiest time of the year! Who will you be kissing at midnight on New Year’s Eve?
Great advice from Paul! There is no reason anyone should have to spend the holidays alone with all of the great services out there.
That is so true Jen! I have tremendous respect for Paul and what he has done in the industry.
Reasonable tips I think!
I’m still falling off the bike however
bobby’s last blog post..You are special
Something tells me you are going to be just fine Bobby!
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Good advice! Easier said then done, but I’m sure the long term effects are worth the effort of following Paul’s advice.
Sometimes you have to keep your long term goals in mind
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Denise, Great site–very informative! Keep up the good work. Happy Holidays!
Paul
Thanks Paul. Happy Holidays to you as well! I’ll let you know if I get up that way for Christmas!
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Happy Holidays Miss Matchmaker!
Happy Holidays to you Justin! Thanks for stopping by dear.
xoxo~
No matter how hard I have tried, I’ve never quite mastered the art of riding a Bike.
I will keep trying!
Thanks!
and looking forward to the Holidays ! No matter what
Trish pssst…it’s easier down hill!
I am undecided about coming up for the holidays but I know if I do we will have fun!
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Miss Match…….you’re such a great source of information!!
Thanks for stopping by Ms Bartender!
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“Something tells me you are going to be just fine Bobby!”
Could you send that something my way please?
bobby’s last blog post..Learning from time
That would be like giving the milk away for free Bobby! lol
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I have spent more than my share of holidays alone or with someone I really did not want to be with. I think that makes me even more sad. I just can’t seem to find a man that has all ( or most) of the qualities I deem necessary to make a good relationship.
Signed,
Not happy
Tonya you are definitely not alone but try to enjoy the journey instead of peddling uphill. The holidays can be hard sometimes but they don’t have to be. There is always a source of happiness around sometimes we are just looking in the wrong direction…
xoxo~