fear1We all have them, not all of us are able to admit to them! Once we are able to identify our fears then we have to ask ourselves are we ready to conquer them?Until we make a concise decision to make a positive change in our life we are unable to move forward in a healthy direction.

Many people suffer greatly from the fear of REJECTION. This is very common in 90% of the single male population. With the fear of rejection comes shyness as well. Think about it why does that shy person sit alone in the corner at a party…they are afraid if they talk to someone “it will only result in yet another rejection.”  Most people who suffer from the fear of rejection have a very hard time meeting new people and do not often put themselves in social situations where they can meet new people.

Some people suffer from the fear of INTIMACY. Not intimacy in the physical sense but in the emotional sense. It is a fear of letting someone close to their heart. This usually stems from a previous bad relationship and essentially is a fear of BEING HURT. Most people who suffer from this fear of intimacy tend to keep others at arms length therefore never allowing anyone to get to know the person they are inside. People who have this fear of intimacy tend fall into the next fear as well…

The fear of COMMITMENT is one in which a person can be dating someone special but they are always keeping their eyes open for something better to come along. Ultimately the other person in the relationship spots this after several attempts to take the relationship to a higher level which typically ends the relationship right then and there. A person with the fear of commitment typically loses what may have been their greatest love. This person makes me want to scream “open your eyes!”

Many people suffer also from a fear of BEING ALONE. These are people who stay in bad relationships or relationships that will never go far. They seek comfort in others even though they may not truly be in love. They tend to be in love with the idea of being in love and not in love with the person they are with. They jump from one relationship to the next and typically fall for the very first person that pays them a little bit of attention.

Sometimes all we need to do to conquer these fears is recognize them. Looking back at past relationships and establishing patterns can be a great mental exercise. If we don’t learn from our mistakes we are condemned to repeat them. Making a commitment to yourself that you are willing to face and conquer these fears is the first step to finding and attracting the right person for you!

I believe in speaking the truth out loud because when you do, you can truly help people! Fear is temporary, regret is forever…

What are some of your fears?


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9 Responses to “Fears”

  1. Karen

    I love how simple you make it sound. I was in a relationship awhile back but he suffered from the fear of commitment and it didn’t last long.

  2. Miss MatchMaker

    At least you got out of it Karen!


  3. Tina

    My biggest fear has always been of getting hurt. It took me a long time to let my bf really into my heart but I am glad I did!

  4. Miss MatchMaker

    Good for you Tina!


  5. Tiffany

    I do regret not being as outgoing and confident as I should be. Most people you see in a social situation that you are interested in won’t hurt your feelings if they’re not interested so what’s the problem in trying?

  6. bobby

    I’m not completely certain of what my fears may be as it relates to dating. I know confidence is a part of it though. I don’t think I fear rejection as I have never initiated contact with a lady, so have never been rejected lol

    I continuously ask myself what I want in a relationship as well as life, but I know that we may change our desires from time to time which can impact our and cause confusion and self doubt.

    I would truly love to post this post on my blog, with your permission, and link it back to you. Please let me know.

    Thanks :)

  7. Miss MatchMaker

    Confidence is definitely is necessary for successful dating Bobby! We may want to consider at least an attempt at approaching lol!

    Try focusing on the future rather than the past…

    Link or post Bobby what ever you want! I hope that my blogs can help people to gain a better understanding of themselves which in turn prepares them better for a healthy relationship in the future!


  8. bobby

    Yes, you’re not the only lady to say that confidence in a guy is sexy, so there definitely something to it. I will seriously consider it more in the future (and focusing on the future is something I am trying more lately) , thank you :)

    Thank you so much for allowing me to post it, it’s a great article!


  9. Doc

    Fears are always a major obstacle! Sometimes it is best to just face them head on!

    Doc’s last blog post..Amen to the Obesity Tax, Let’s Just Call it Something Else

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