Getting what you want…

Getting what you want is not always easy in life, dating and relationships.  But it doesn’t have to be that difficult!  The biggest mistakes I see people make is that they are either setting their goals too small or having unrealistic expectations.  Look in the mirror.  Do you like what you see?  You have to love you first before you can truly love anyone else.  What do you have to offer?  Are you asking for more or less than you can bring to the table yourself?

In order to find what you are looking for you have to have a clear understanding of who you are and what you truly want, a vision so to speak.  Then and only then can you lay out a specific plan on how you are going to achieve your goal.  When making a plan you must consider what has worked and what has failed for you in the past.  If we do not learn from our mistakes we are condemned to repeat them.  However, the most important part in achieving your goal is to follow through.  You can’t just give up when you hit a bump in the road.

Always remember to accept responsibility and don’t make excuses.  When you blame others or situations, you put them in control and not you.  The only behavior you can control is your own.  Understand that people will treat you in the manner of which you allow them to treat you.  The only one in charge of your destiny should be YOU!

Attracting the person of your dreams is absolutely and totally within reach for anyone who sets their mind to it and approaches it with this mind set.  Keeping that person is a lesson for another day…


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21 Responses to “Getting what you want…”

  1. Destin Girl

    Miss Matchmaker you sure do make it sound so easy when you lay it all out this way. I am glad to have your assistance. It is so easy to just give up sometimes but I know that is the wrong attitude to have. Thank you for all that you do! :)

  2. Miss MatchMaker

    We talked about this sweet girl and I know sometimes it is hard to remain focused but if you think positive thoughts it really does help!


  3. DW

    MM thank you for keeping us all on the right track. You really know your stuff. I really love your late night posts. Let me know if you can find me someone just like you!


  4. Miss MatchMaker

    DW thanks for the compliments, they will get you everywhere, wait no, nowhere lol

    Sorry dear I am one of a kind! ;)

  5. Trish

    My Love life is very ironic. I always make a mental picture of what I want; and through Karma and fate… POP! It always becomes reality.
    But here is the lesson learned…. What you think you want is NOT what you really NEED, and of corse Be careful what you Wish For!!!!
    Now, What the hell do I want?
    Well, I could write a book on what I don’t want.
    I guess I will just sit back and enjoy the ride, and not worry about it for now :)

  6. Miss MatchMaker

    Trish there is always a difference between what we want and what we need! I think we have learned that lesson LOL!!

    Enjoy the ride sweet girl!


  7. Steven

    Are we in direct competition now? You have your business and website offering this sound advice and related services and you know the website where I do somewhat similarly . . .

  8. Miss MatchMaker

    OMG Steven you are killing me!


  9. Alli

    Good blog Baby!! :) Just wanted to let you know I popped in and read it!
    I hope to see you again soonnnnnN!!!

  10. Miss MatchMaker

    Hey Alli! Thanks for stopping by! I will be back in town Monday and I’ll give you a call.


  11. bobby

    Not much to add as you’ve written it beautifully :)

    bobby’s last blog post..Threatened by other’s relationships.

  12. Miss MatchMaker

    Thank Bobby! :)


  13. Dr. Diana

    love your blog, Miss Matchmaker!!

    Dr. Diana’s last blog post..Attend the Taping of my PBS Show: Finding Your Own True Love

  14. Miss MatchMaker

    Thanks Dr. Diana, that is a big compliment coming from an expert like you! I was happy to stumble upon your blog tonight. You have some great theories!


  15. Dr. KC/DOCintheBiz

    Your blog is so amazing! I’m so glad that you found me and brought me here.
    I completely agree with everything you share in this short but very sweet article. You have inspired me to write something of my own on this topic. Thank you.

    An thank you again for inviting me as a friend. I happily accept and hope to be able to learn from each other as we help others.

    Doc KC

    Dr. KC/DOCintheBiz’s last blog post..Finding a Happy Life and a Happy Love – 3 Step Process

  16. Miss MatchMaker

    I have heard nothing but good things about you Dr. KC! I think what you have going on in you page is great and I truly appreciate your compliment. I look forward to reading more of your posts.


  17. Justin

    I’m not sure I like accepting responsibility ;) Was it really all my fault? Nice blog MM. xx

  18. Micah

    Great read! I totally agree. I’m going to send this to a couple of my friends.

  19. BonBon

    This is great advise for our clients!

  20. Zian Harrington

    Good stuff. I couldn’t have said it better my self Denise. ;)

  21. dennis carey

    Excellent and succint. The biggest trend I see in women who struggle with relationship is passivity. There are 3 types of people in the world. 1. Those who make things happen. 2. Those who watch what happens. 3. Those who wonder what happened. The idea is to be #1 as much as possible. If you are not, become that way, little by little. Yes, it is tough. Buck up, find your motivation, improve yourself daily. Remove the fluff/timewasters. The better person you are, the better person you attract.

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