Still looking for love online?
September 26, 2008 by Miss MatchMaker
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In today’s society we are governed by 3 things. The laws of man, the laws of God and peer pressure. The first two do not apply to the internet and online dating. On line dating is not policed by anyone, which makes it easy for people to exaggerate the truth and flat out lie. I can’t even count how many times people have told me of their frustrations with lies about age, weight, income and appearance while using online dating sites.
Online dating is great for those who want to hide behind the computer and play games. Think about it for a second, where else can a woman go to find a potential mate without having to do her hair and makeup? Men can over exaggerate their income and they honestly believe it makes them more attractive. They have a mentality of “if everyone is doing it, why can’t I…?” Peer pressure allows for this mentality.
For those who are interested in casual dating and not a serious relationship, it may be worth spending hours online sorting through profiles in the new bar scene of the 21st century. I don’t understand how this going to lead to a long term healthy relationship any better then the local bar scene would?
MSNBC.com’s The Red Tape Chronicles states: “Even The New York Times best-seller “Freakonomics” took some nasty swipes at online love. The book cited a study by two economists and a psychologist that found troubling statistics concerning online dating and dishonesty. For example, how could 4 percent of online daters be earning $200,000 a year, when less than 1 percent of the Internet population does? And while we’re at it, how could 70 percent of women have above-average looks? Then there’s this: 57 percent of men studied who posted a profile — more than half — never received a single e-mail.”
I am sure online dating has worked for some people, but being a matchmaker I only get to hear all the horror stories of online dating. People usually come to me after they have exhausted all other avenues of meeting new people. I listen to the failures of online dating every day and it makes me wonder why people actually bother?
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Comparing online dating to the bar scene is brilliant! It is so true because you never know what you are going to get. I have invested hours in online dating and finally I gave up. For me it was just a waste of time and money. Are you taking on any new clients in Atlanta by chance? I like your attitude and can see why you are a good matchmaker!
Thanks for the compliments Michael. I understand how frustrating online dating can be. I will email with more details regarding your options in Atlanta. Thanks for reading!
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Online dating for me has been nothing but a disappointment! It has brought me no success at all and I swore it off a few months ago. The only problem now is I am getting use to sitting home alone on the weekends but it sure does beat going out on dates with all those creeps I met that only wanted one thing. You refer to online dating for casual daters, my experience was that they only wanted one thing and it wasn’t a relationship!
Karen I have heard this complaint a hundred times, you are not alone in your frustration! I feel for you sweetie…
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why is it that people feel so invincible online? they think they can say anything to anyone and never think about the fact that they could be hurting someone that is falling for the person they are making themselves out to be…
Unfortunately Emily, people hide behind the computer because they can not be held accountable for their actions/behavior and sometimes that causes pain. Many people fall for an over exaggerated personality. It sets our expectations high and we drop to a complete low once we get to know the truth.
I encourage anyone who dates online to actually meet face to face quick! This way you do not become as emotionally invested!
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I HAD A FRIEND THAT DID THE ONLINE DATING GIG AND WHEN HE GOT TO HOGS BREATH THE WOMAN LOOKED NOTHING LIKE HER PICTURE AND WAS NOTHING LIKE SHE HAD PORTRAYED HERSELF TO BE. HE IS SUCH A NICE GUY THAT HE JUST STUCK IT OUT. NEEDLESS TO SAY THAT WAS THE LAST OF HIS ONLINE DATING EXPERIENCES.
Thanks for stopping by Melissa. You should have your friend submit a profile to me and maybe I can help him out.
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I tryed on-line dating ( the free kind) and it was awful for a while. All of the men just wanted one night stands, even though I specifically stated : “Looking for a long-term commitment”… Whatever! Through luck, and the kind of karma I carry around me, ( a blessing and a curse) I did end up meeting my boyfriend of now 8 months. Although he is not perfect, and we have our moments, I couldn’t of found someone better though a bar, a friend’s set-up, or had I met him at the Library
Keep your eyes and hearts open folks, whether you be at a local bar, a coffee shop, on-line, and of corse, Your local Library !
Good luck, you need it!
You do have a certain blessed karma Trish!
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I am done with internet dating! Done with surprises, I don’t do well with surprises. As for me, you get what you see and if you don’t like it move on! Next…
You are the greatest Miss Matchmaker!
This is what I love about you DW!
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All I can say is that after pushing consistently, I met online whom is my current wife. Online dating, just like eating fried habaneros, is not for everybody. Moreover, I suggest that you if you decide to immerse yourself into this arena, take filling out your profile(s) seriously as this is the only way to maximize filtering those creepy, non-compatible guys/girls. It took me centuries to fill out mine properly, but this is what made me successful on this love field.
In other words: there’s no instant formula to make it work. Just hard work from your part will eventually pay off.
Jalapeño kRem
I am glad to hear of one success! Centuries, that is a long time. I agree that if people were to be serious when it comes to filling out profiles they would be more successful.
Thanks for stopping by!
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“Think about it for a second, where else can a woman go to find a potential mate without having to do her hair and makeup? Men can over exaggerate their income and they honestly believe it makes them more attractive. They have a mentality of “if everyone is doing it, why can’t I…?” Peer pressure allows for this mentality.”
Funny, I just wrote a post about this not long ago (albeit, yours is so much better). It goes to one of my principles about dating in general HONESTY.
Cheers!
Honesty is always the best approach! I’ll have to stop by your blog later and check it out.
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You make some very good points about online dating; it can be frustrating. My friend Mandi and I write about it in our blog…it takes some practice weeding out the losers, liars, etc.
That said, I’ve met men at church, work, in bars, through friends, and about every other way you can meet someone, and my luck online has been about the same as other avenues (just higher volume). There are some really nice people online – but you have to search until you find them!
Kay’s last blog post..Dating and Physical Attraction
I will certainly go check out your blog. Weeding out the bad ones is my job, I know it can be frustrating but in the end it is always worth the search! Thanks for stopping by Kay!
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I am so over the entire online dating thing!!!!!!
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If you, with without having your hair done and makeup, look like the girl in the top left picture I’ll marry you on the spot. And yes, that makes me a man.
And yes, higher income does make a man more attractive in the eyes of the fairer sex. Those are the statistics, live with them.
Also, there is no reason why the statistics on the 200K earners could not be correct. Nor those on 70% above-average looks, or the 57% non-receivers.
Online communication isn’t that different from real life. Whatever made you thinks so.