Listen up guys…Confidence is SEXY!


Do you even know what your most attractive feature is?  Maybe you think it is your beautiful eyes because you catch us ladies looking into them often.  Or maybe it is the way you dress because you think us women appreciate a man with a sense of fashion.  Maybe you think it is those abs you work so hard for every day at the gym.  Possibly you believe it is that gorgeous smile you have with those perfect white teeth.  Well let me tell you something all of those things are great but they are not the number one reasons why us ladies are attracted you…

One of the most appealing thing to us is your CONFIDENCE!  It is the way you carry yourself when you enter a room.  It is they way you make eye contact from across the room. It is the way you show no fear when you walk up to us and strike up a conversation.   Essentially it is your belief in your self that shows in your body language.

Please understand there is a fine line between confidence and acting cocky!  Cockiness can be very unattractive so be careful not to cross that line.  No one finds that attractive.  Remember it is not what you say, it is how you say it.

What this means is that no matter what you look like you can still learn how to charm a woman with your confidence.  You can overcome the early balding, the few extra pounds or the fact that you may be vertically challenged.  All you have to do is feel good about yourself and maybe learn a few techniques in the art of body language.

We all know that men are visual but most women typically are not.  Many women recognize that when we get older and we are sitting on the porch swing with the man of our dreams it is not his looks that keep us interested, it is his character.  Looks can fade but the make up of a persons character is what we are left with in the end.  All I can tell you is that you may win us over with confidence more so then you would with that perfectly sculpted body and it is that confidence that will keep us around.

So take a look in the mirror guys.  Don’t ignore what you see because there is always room for improvement but understand, it is not what you see that really matters.  It is how you exude that confidence and it will win us over just about every time!

And by the way…we also dig nerds but that is a blog for another day!


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35 Responses to “Listen up guys…Confidence is SEXY!”

  1. Karen

    I wish more men would understand this.

  2. Miss MatchMaker

    That is why I am writing all this Karen!!!


  3. Rhonda

    A mans confidence is definitely something I am attracted to!

  4. Miss MatchMaker

    Me toooooo Rhonda!! ;)

  5. Sophie


    I love this blog….I want to send it to the Daily News and have it first page as big as they would allow it.

    All men need to read this……..

    I love computer geeks!

  6. Miss MatchMaker

    LOL Thanks Sophie!! I am glad you are reading!!!


  7. Andrea

    I look for whats on the inside….got to have a little to work with on the out side too….but what he has on the inside would win over looks any day in my book!

  8. Miss MatchMaker

    Good for you Andrea! I couldn’t agree more!


  9. Jenn the "Matcher"

    I will make sure all my male clients read this.

  10. Miss MatchMaker

    I think that is a great idea Jenn!!!


  11. LIZ


  12. Miss MatchMaker

    We all get weak in the knees over it…


  13. Michael

    I find it funny that I am the first guy to comment on this post LOL I suppose it must be my confidence!! So where are all the other confident guys? ;)

  14. Miss MatchMaker

    Only the confident guys comment on my blog Michael ;)


  15. John

    Confident man stepping up to comment! You are correct. I use to be very shy but when I came out of my shell I started to fell better about myself and my confidence got higher and I started dating more and more women were attracted to me!

  16. Miss MatchMaker

    Keep it up John…LOL


  17. Tony

    I just have to ask; is that a pic of your boyfriend? ;)

  18. Miss MatchMaker

    mmmuuuuuuuaaaaahhhh! no comment!


  19. Vince

    You hit the nail on the head!!! THANK YOU miss matchmaker!


  20. Miss MatchMaker

    Good to hear from you sweetie! How’s my favorite Italian boy these days?


  21. Vince

    LOL….You are a diamond! Thank you for all of your advice…Its never failed:)

  22. Thomas

    Hey there D,
    Just dropping by to show some love to you, congrats on the new site. Confidence is a great thing to have. There needs to be more of it in the world!

  23. Miss MatchMaker

    Hey Thomas! Thanks for stopping by and I couldn’t agree with you more!!!! Hope you are doing well dear.


  24. Tiffany

    Touchez, all guys should read this!!!

  25. Miss MatchMaker

    Yep! lol


  26. Alex Kay

    A little reminder never hurts ;-)


  27. Miss MatchMaker

    Well this is one thing you should never forget!! ;)


  28. bobby

    I’m screwed!

    But very good advice just the same, thanks :)

  29. Miss MatchMaker

    If you don’t have it Bobby, fake it!!!!

    Good luck!


  30. bobby

    lol Miss MatchMaker. Either I have it or I don’t. I think I’ll just be me :)

    Besides, I wouldn’t know where to buy the confidence lol

  31. russruggles

    I would say that the number one way to exude confidence is to have a life, and be occupied with your interests.

    There was just a discussion going on at another blog, about how women tend to like men who help out at a party:

    I think this is because they have purpose: something to occupy their attention other than trying to find context in a room full of people.

    This works on this micro level, but on a macro level, too. If you fill your life with your interest and curiosities, and surround yourself with like-minded people, you will have a stronger sense of identity, and resultingly: confidence.

    russruggles’s last blog post..Why Your Message Isn’t Getting a Response

  32. Miss MatchMaker

    Your last paragraph Russ is so very true! Thanks for stopping by…


  33. Doc

    There is nothing, nothing more attractive than a self confident man!

    Doc’s last blog post..Amen to the Obesity Tax, Let’s Just Call it Something Else

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  35. Zian Harrington

    Hmph. Not much to say. This article pretty much speaks for itself.

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